The Moment That Counts

In a world where dating is fast and speed dating is lightning, I feel out of depth as I wish for the 70’s and the idea of courting someone special.

Relationships are work. I realized a few years ago that finding someone so perfect that everyday feels like a dream is like finding the perfect drop of water in the ocean. It may exist for all you know, but doesn’t it sound funny and unrealistic when said out loud?

I want him, forever. I love the sound of that sentence. I cannot wait to look at someone and feel that way. But do you know how complicated those beautiful words are?

I often wondered why people parted ways. Why someone looks at the other person and says, “I love you so much, but this isn’t working.” How can it not work if there is love? I am also the person that sat across my best friend and said, “I know you love him. But is that enough to take you through a lifetime?”

Valentine’s Day is the day I dread every year. The big day of love. I don’t have someone buying me roses 365 days of the year. But somehow it stings only once. I had a million ideas about what to post. I considered the power of being single as a very realistic topic but in all honesty, I would have been writing a bucket load of crap, even according to me.

So I looked around trying to find inspiration to write something. Anything. I was going through Pinterest, WeHeartIt and had finally gotten on to Tumblr when this feeling hit me. After three hours of scrolling through images, I turned to my left. The view put an unknowing smile on my face and I cannot begin to explain the number of times I’ve felt this way.

Love. It’s what I feel every time I look at him. It’s what he feels when I walk through the door after a long day of work. It’s the smile on my face at the sight of him curled up near me.

I almost hate him at times. He drives me so crazy. I am a cleanliness freak and he has a way of messing up everything. He puts a stink in my room that I can never get rid of. He fights with me over the simplest of things. He irritates me by never striking a pose as I try to take a picture with him. He has so much energy one day and refuses to get out of bed the next.

And yet, when I’m at work, I find myself wondering what he’s doing at that very moment. I feel the need to come home and tell him I missed him like a crazy person. I’m sure he doesn’t understand the words. He doesn’t understand what I’m trying to tell him. But he knows I’m there and I’m going to stay there.

It’s not always easy. It’s not always kisses and hugs. But that’s what makes this so amazingly perfect. The fact that I could screw up and he will not judge me. The fact that he can create a completely ridiculous mess and I will still love him.

I lived my entire life believing this is how relationships are made.

They’re not easy. They’re delicate and dainty. You have to handle them with care. You have to treat it with importance and patience. You have to believe that everything can be worked out.

Because the world will never stop rushing to find the next BIG thing. But you have to remind yourself to stop. Breathe. And take in the moment. Because these moments are the ones we forget easily. These are the ones we won’t remember when sitting around a crowd and laughing it off years later.

But this moment, when I turned left and I saw him curled up next to me, this is the moment I will miss when I’m sitting by myself on a warm Sunday afternoon.

This is the moment I will wish for on my worst day.

Because this is the secret to the perfect relationship. This is what gets us through a difficult phase. This moment when you realize that the world can run if it wants, but you just want to plant your feet on the ground and take the view in.

The best time of your relationship isn’t the one on the video or the photo. It’s not the one you remember by a ring or a souvenir. It’s not the one where you’re surrounded by a flashmob.

The best moment of your relationships is the one that only you’ll know. That only you’ll see..


29 thoughts on “The Moment That Counts

      • itsmayurremember says:

        Dog teach us what is love. Its giving everything you have just to love(jumping to lick your face) without expecting anything in return.
        Only problem is: after that no other love suffice. The bar has been raised too high by a small 3-4 foot tall hairy idiot(mine literally doesn’t realize food is served until kept in front of him!)
        Beautiful post!

      • LoudThoughtsVoicedOut says:

        I swear, once you’re loved by a dog, no love ever feels enough. I have had very realistic moments when I looked at someone and thought “Will you be THAT happy to see me at the end of everyday?” 🙂
        Thank you 🙂

  1. urshult says:

    I LOVE your blog post. Your writing style is very readable and enjoyable and it’s a great idea to write about Valentine’s Day, as that is something we can all relate to:) Your dog is a cutie!

  2. Julie Phelps says:

    Great post and I love how you were able to put your thoughts down and sure them. I can remember feeling this way back when I was single. But, then I stopped looking, I stopped wondering, and stopped dreaming, and BAM! He walked into my life. It wasn’t delicate and it didn’t take work. It was perfect from day one. You’ll know it when it happens. Sit back and enjoy the ride until then. A watched pot never boils, and you miss a whole lot of life in the process. Get out there and have FUN, and let HIM find you! You are worth it!

  3. leftandinside says:

    I loved that this came from your heart. And, it was a very friendly, easy read that got straight to the point with a cute twist. I would have loved to have heard a few examples of your thoughts and possibly a past relationship in a little more depth that may have come close to the love your pup.

  4. theeleventhletterblog says:

    Let me tell you how much I loved this post!!! It was amazing and super inspiring. This was really good stuff and I really dig your writing style. I totally understand how you feel about your dog. I recently posted Roxie ( my beloved canine) in my Friday Favorites post about two weeks ago lol

    This was really good, I enjoyed it. I can’t wait to read more=)

  5. brettfish says:

    Wow, so great and what misdirection – well done. Just read this quote on the internet today:

    People don’t like love, they like that flittery flirty feeling. They don’t love love – love is sacrificial, love is ferocious, it’s not emotive. Our culture doesn’t love love, it loves the idea of love. It wants the emotion without paying anything for it. It’s ridiculous.

    [Matt Chandler Parsons]

    Which i really enjoyed and then thought resonated with a bunch of what you wrote.

    All the best
    love brett fish

    • LoudThoughtsVoicedOut says:

      I love that quote.
      I think the word love is lost on us. I was a teenager that abused the word as well but as I grew up, I understood the value that one word could hold. I can now never just throw it around without meaning it which seems to be what most people these days do.
      I wonder if the old kind of love will ever exist anymore.
      Thank you 🙂

  6. alyskate says:

    Wow! I absolutely love this post- really inspiring! If you have a spare moment, please check out m blog. I’m really knew to this and would appreciate any comments/feedback 🙂

  7. Jess says:

    I was in suspense until I scrolled down the page and saw the picture. I liked the technique of talking about something but not revealing what it is, until we finally get to see it.

  8. Frater Bovious says:

    “I considered the power of being single as a very realistic topic but in all honesty, I would have been writing a bucket load of crap, even according to me.”

    This is such an honest statement. I think the idea of contrasting a perfect relationship between humans with the relationship you have with your cute dog has something to say. I’ve always heard the thing about a dog is they are unconditional and loyal. We all know that humans are not that.

    But we can try to be that to others, and possibly attract the same.

    I also like the last lines of your post. Nicely done and well-written.

  9. teediculous says:

    … I’m going through a lot of relationship issues… and at the end of the day… my dog… is that one true relationship that is consistent and doesn’t change… haha what is wrong it me? =P

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